Does your child seem fine at school, only to have a big meltdown as soon as they get home? You’re not alone.
After a full day of learning, socializing, following directions and managing emotions, some children simply run out of energy for regulation. Hunger, fatigue, sensory overload, anxiety and the effort of “holding it together” can all contribute.
What might you notice?
Crying, irritability, anger, arguing, refusal, shutting down, sensitivity to noise or touch, or difficulty with simple transitions and requests.
What works?
Try connection before correction. Offer a snack, quiet time, movement and a predictable routine. Sometimes your child simply needs to feel safe enough to let go.
When should you seek support?
If meltdowns are frequent, becoming more intense, affecting family or school life, or occurring alongside anxiety, school refusal, aggression, sleep changes or persistent sadness, it may be time for additional support.
Therapy can help children understand their emotions, build regulation skills and develop healthier ways to cope. Depending on their needs, support may include play therapy, CBT, DBT-informed strategies, EMDR and parent consultation.
Big behaviours are often communication. With connection, understanding and support, children can learn to manage big feelings.