It's late September, and the new-school-year excitement has started to wear off. For many children, that's when the worries creep in — the stomach ache every school morning, the tears at drop-off, the "what if" questions at bedtime. If this sounds like your child, you're not alone. Anxiety is one of the most common reasons families contact our team each fall, and support is available close to home: child anxiety counselling in Coquitlam helps children make sense of their big feelings and gives parents practical ways to respond.
What anxiety can look like in school-aged children
Anxiety doesn't always look like worry. In children, it often shows up in the body or in behaviour:
- Stomach aches, headaches, or feeling sick before school — with no medical cause
- Clinginess or tears at drop-off, even in older kids
- Trouble falling asleep, or waking with bad dreams
- Avoiding activities they used to enjoy
- Big reactions to small setbacks, or needing lots of reassurance
- Perfectionism — erasing homework over and over, or refusing to try at all
Every child is different, and seeing one or two of these signs doesn't mean your child has an anxiety disorder. These are simply common ways worry shows up in young children. Only a qualified professional can assess what's really going on — which is why reaching out for guidance can make such a difference.
What's happening underneath the worry
It helps to think of anxiety as an overprotective alarm system. Your child's brain is trying to keep them safe — it's just sounding the alarm a little too loudly, and a little too often. A child who melts down at the school gate isn't being difficult; their nervous system genuinely believes something is wrong.
This can be especially true for neurodivergent children, who may experience the world more intensely — brighter, louder, less predictable. That's not a flaw to fix. It's information about what your child needs to feel safe.
Gentle ways to support an anxious child at home
Imagine a 9-year-old who begs to stay home every morning, saying her tummy hurts — but by Saturday she's perfectly fine. Her parents are exhausted and starting to dread the school run. This is a scenario we hear about often, and there are some general strategies many families find helpful:
- Keep routines predictable. Knowing what comes next helps an anxious brain stand down.
- Name it to tame it. "It sounds like your worry is really loud this morning" shows your child their feeling makes sense.
- Stay calm and close. Your steady presence is co-regulation — your nervous system lending calm to theirs.
- Validate first, problem-solve second. "I can see this feels really hard" comes before "let's figure out a plan."
- Resist the rescue reflex. It's tempting to remove every trigger, but gently facing feared situations — at your child's pace — is what builds confidence over time.
If mornings keep getting harder despite your best efforts, that's useful information — not a parenting failure.
How child anxiety counselling in Coquitlam can help
In counselling, children don't need to sit and talk about their feelings the way adults do. Through play therapy and other developmentally appropriate approaches, children express what's on their minds through play, art, and stories — and they build coping skills in a way that feels natural to them. Parents are part of the process too, so the strategies that help in session keep working at home and at school.
There's no waitlist for counselling at Creative Minds, and you don't need a referral to get started.
Taking the next step
You don't have to figure this out on your own. We offer free 15-minute consultations with Sarah, Christine, Brie, or Rachel — a relaxed chance to ask questions and see whether counselling feels like the right fit for your family.
- Book in Coquitlam (in-person or virtual across BC): https://creativemindsconsultingbc.janeapp.com/
- Book in Medicine Hat (in-person or virtual across Alberta): https://creativemindsconsulting.janeapp.com/
Evening and weekend appointments are available. And if your child is ever in crisis, you can call or text 988 any time, day or night.
This blog is for general information only and is not psychological or medical advice, nor does reading it create a therapeutic relationship. If you're concerned about yourself or your child, please reach out — we're happy to help you decide on next steps.